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I was annoyed by something and talking to my best friend when he asked me to elaborate, I realized it's going to be so bad, and I should pause. I apologised and told him I am a little messy today and I don't want to pass it on to you right now. I knew I was having a bad day, my brain was full, and if I kept talking, I was going to turn my annoyance into his problem. I gave myself a pass for being moody and pulled back before I said something stupid. Later, it hit me: I only did that because I knew what was going on inside my own head. But when the roles are reversed, we almost never give anyone else that kind of room to breathe, do we? The funny thing about people we love is how fast our words change when we get hurt. We rarely say, "It was just a bad day, you made a mistake and that's okay." Instead, it is almost always: "How could you do this to ME?" That little phrase, ' to me' , changes everything. The second you say ' to me' , you ma...

On a random weekday, my best friend texted me. He was stuck on a decision and wanted to talk about it. His dilemma was simple on the surface. He had to choose between going home or staying back at his workplace. I read his options, shared my opinion, and thought the confusion was over. Half an hour later, he was telling me the consequences. If he went home, he knew he would relax for a while and start working. Worst case, he would just procrastinate and feel guilty. If he stayed back, he would sit there unable to focus because he was doing it for the past few hours. Probably, sitting there he would wonder if resting at home would have made him more productive later. After an entire hour of agonizing over this, he finally chose the exact thing he wanted to do in the very beginning. He realized he had wasted an hour. A few days later, a very similar thing happened. I was going to meet a childhood friend. We easily decided on the day and the time. I then asked her to pick a place. She had...